De-Stressing Stress

first_imgAddThis Sharing ButtonsShare to FacebookFacebookFacebookShare to TwitterTwitterTwitterShare to EmailEmailEmailShare to RedditRedditRedditShare to MoreAddThisMoreRecently, a coaching client of mine had an epiphany in the midst of a two-hour walk in nature. There, in the rare quiet of her busy life, she discovered she actually could hear herself thinking. What is more, to her surprise and amazement, the chatter she heard running like a soundtrack in her mind was cacophonous and negative. Not the ominous negativity of someone who is suicidal or homicidal. Rather, “little negatives,” as Normal Vincent Peale called them. She heard herself making insidious statements like, “I don’t think I’ll be able to do this,” and “I don’t seem to be able to get what I want.” Little did she know just how this realization would become a cornerstone to greater success, happiness, and productivity.“Attitudes are more important than facts.” – Karl Menninger, M.D. In our coaching session, she wondered aloud how changing her thoughts might help. She seemed to sense that this one, seemingly small, change could yield abundant results. She mused on the following questions. What if she learned to catch herself in the act of thinking negatively? Could she replace these corrosive, negative thoughts with positive ones? What would happen if she did?She indeed had found an essential key to her future success and productivity. This story demonstrates how we create our own stress as well as our own energy, success, and happiness.Stress Is a VerbPeople commonly think of stress as a noun, as in “I have so much stress in my life.” However, in actuality, it is a verb, as in “I am stressing about this project or outcome.” An anxiety-provoking task, such as standing in front of the Board of Directors to present a report, may not be of our choosing. But we can choose to maximize or minimize our stressing by how we think about it.Why People Create Their Own StressWho would seek to be stressed? Very few of us would, at least on a conscious level. However, below the surface, it may be a different story. We may find value in creating our own stress: We may think of stress as a motivator. Without it, we fear we might lose our competitive edge or become slackers. We may have learned it as children from adults in our lives who constantly fretted and worried — many of whom even “disasterized” that ruin surely was nipping at their heels. Before we were able to consciously choose, we developed that authority figure’s stressing habit.We may have learned that ‘being perfect’ is the price of admission to the hearts of important people. Because perfection is unattainable, we continually worry that we will be found out. This often leads to a compulsion for dotting every i and crossing every t. In the end, nothing is completed — or if it is, we insist it is unworthy. We may have learned to expect the unexpected, often citing ‘Murphy’s Law,’ which has led straight to a self-fulfilling prophesy of inconsistency and even chaos. It, consequently, became the norm. We may have became addicted to the adrenalin rush we get from always being stressed — sucking down coffee to fuel even faster speeds. We rationalize this keeps us on our toes. Maybe so. But how long can this pace be maintained?What is the common denominator in all of these? Stress has become normal. And therefore, comfortable. We have difficulty recognizing it actually poses a problem. Harder still is contemplating giving it up. The most difficult of all is actually giving it up.If you are preoccupied with thoughts that make you anxious, try these anti-stress methodologies, which can help you gradually learn to replace your worry habit with positive thinking.Tips For Stress BustingWhen you hear yourself “disasterizing,” stop and do a reality check. Is it true that nothing ever works out for you, or that you never do anything right? Probably notLet go of the negative thought by actually watching it float away like a balloonReplace it with a positive, affirming thought, such as, I can figure this out, or I can ask for help if I need itBe patient with yourself while you are learning to practice this new perspective. Soon, it will become second natureIf you continue to have trouble with this approach, ask for help of a trusted friend, coach, or therapistAs you learn this new orientation to stress, watch in amazement as your stress decreases and as your mood becomes more upbeat. And don’t forget to enjoy the steps along the way to a more relaxed and competent you.Dr. Beth Erickson is Founder and CEO of Erickson Consulting International. She is an executive coach, business consultant, and professional speaker based in the Minneapolis, MN area. She has been a family and marital therapist for over three decades and is the author of three books. Her most recent published book is Longing For Dad: Father Loss and Its Impact. www.DrBethErickson.comAddThis Sharing ButtonsShare to FacebookFacebookFacebookShare to TwitterTwitterTwitterShare to EmailEmailEmailShare to RedditRedditRedditShare to MoreAddThisMorelast_img read more

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Odds & Ends: Tina Turner Turns 80; Three Casts of Tina Offer Up a Video Birthday Wish & More

first_img Ana Villafañe View Comments Jelani Remy Brian Stokes Mitchell Tina Turner(Photo provided by Polk & Co.) Adam Chanler-Berat Josh Groban Adam Chanler-Berat & More to Star in How to Load a Musket Off-BroadwayA talented group of stars have been selected to headline How to Load a Musket, a new play by Talene Monahon set to make its world premiere at off-Broadway’s 59E59 Theaters next year. Jaki Bradley will direct the production, scheduled to begin previews on January 11, 2020 and officially open on January 16. The cast will include Adam Chanler-Berat, Ryan Spahn, Richard Topol, Carolyn Braver, David J. Cork, Andy Taylor, Lucy Taylor and Nicole Villamil. How to Load a Musket explores the unique and all-consuming hobby of people who reeanact the Civil War. Zoe Sarnak, of the Broadway-bound Empire Records musical, will pen original songs for the work. The production will play a limited engagement through January 26, 2020.Casting Complete for New West End Comedy Upstart CrowFull casting is here for Upstart Crow, a stage adaptation of the BBC sitcom set to arrive in London’s West End next year. The previously announced world premiere comedy will begin previews on February 7, 2020 and officially open on February 18 at the Gielgud Theatre. Newly announced stars include Helen Monks as Susanna, Rob Rouse as Bottom, Steve Speirs as Burbage and Mark Heap (who plays Robert Greene on the TV series) as Dr. John Hall. They join the previosly announced David Mitchelll and Gemma Whelan reprising their screen turns as Will Shakepeare and Kate, respectively.Spring Awakening Originals to Perform at NY Stage & Film GalaA starry lineup of performers and presenters have been announced to toast honorees Tom Hulce and Diana DiMenna at New York Stage and Film’s upcoming annual gala. The previously announced event, directed by Sammi Cannold, will be held at The Ziegfeld Ballroom on December 8. Performances will include a number from Jonathan Groff, Lea Michele and John Gallagher Jr., original stars of Spring Awakening (which was produced by Hulce), along with songs from Brittain Ashford, Cosmo Castaldi, Daya Curley, Sofia Dobrushin, Marcy Harriell, Van Hughes, Taylor Symone Jackson, Nasia Thomas, Ana Villafañe and Candice Marie Woods. The event will also include remarks by Annette Bening, Josh Groban, Michael Mayer and Heidi Schreck.Ain’t Too Proud to Open NBC’s Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade SpecialGet ready! The Tony-nominated musical Ain’t Too Proud: The Life and Times of the Temptations has finalized details of its performance for Thursday’s Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade special. The previously announced television event will begin at 9:00am ET on NBC. Ain’t Too Proud will kick off with the TV program with a medley of “Get Ready,” “Ain’t Too Proud to Beg” and “I Can’t Get Next To You.” The hit musical, which plays Broadway’s Imperial Theatre, is headlined by Tony nominees Derrick Baskin as Otis Williams and Ephraim Sykes as David Ruffin, with James Harkness as Paul Williams and former Broadway.com vloggers Jelani Remy as Eddie Kendricks and Jawan M. Jackson as Melvin Franklin. Tune in on Thursday and make plans to see Ain’t Too Proud on Broadway soon! Ariana DeBose Annette Bening Star Filescenter_img Derrick Baskin James Harkness Lea Michele View All (14) Jonathan Groff Heidi Schreck Ephraim Sykes Here’s a quick roundup of stories you might have missed today. Watch Three Casts of Tina Wish a Happy 80th Birthday to Tina TurnerToday is a big day for the Queen of Rock ‘n’ Roll. Tina Turner celebrates her 80th birthday, and a whole slew of stars are helping to celebrate. In commemoration of Turner’s milestone birthday, the casts of Tina: The Tina Turner Musical from Broadway, London’s West End and Hamburg, Germany lent their voices to a slew of warm wishes for the star whose life is the basis for their smash hit. Other performers who joined in include Tony winner Brian Stokes Mitchell, Tony nominee Ariana DeBose, Ringo Starr and Bryan Adams. Watch the lovely tribute below and then make plans to experience Tina for yourself. John Gallagher Jr.last_img read more

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More Little Free Libraries to enjoy if you are in north Roeland Park

first_imgA colorful LFL on Birch.In our prowls around NEJC, we stumbled onto two more Little Free Libraries to add to the growing list of reading opportunities while on your daily walk.These are both found in north Roeland Park. The first is in the 5100 block of Birch and the second, complete with a reading bench, can be found near Pawnee and 48th Street.Enjoy the selections.This one comes with a reading bench.last_img

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Please welcome Kevin Collison to the Shawnee Mission Post!

first_imgSecondly, you’ll likely start seeing a good deal less of my name on the site in the coming weeks. Kevin will be splitting the northeast Johnson County beats with Dan as I focus on getting our second site, the Blue Valley Post, up and running. Which is to say, if you have story ideas that you’d like us to consider for the Shawnee Mission Post, pass them along to Kevin (kcollison@shawneemissionpost.com) or Dan (dblom@shanweemissionpost.com). And if you have story ideas that might be better suited for the Blue Valley area, hit me up at jsenter@bluevalleypost.com. Attention readers! You’ll likely notice a couple of changes here at the ol’ Shawnee Mission Post starting next week. And here they are:Kevin CollisonFirst and foremost, we’re immensely excited to welcome Kevin Collison to our editorial staff. For those of you who don’t know him already, Kevin is a Prairie Village resident with a long and distinguished career in newspaper reporting. He received his master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University and has amassed three decades working for major metro papers, including a long stint with the Kansas City Star. He’s also been recognized with one of the industry’s top honors. In 1996, while working for the Buffalo News in New York, Collison earned the George K. Polk Award for Local Reporting. Kevin will be bringing his investigative talents and expertise in redevelopment issues to the Shawnee Mission Post starting Tuesday. And it’s difficult to overstate how thrilled we are to have him on board.last_img read more

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Merriam police officer saves 2-year-old from choking on IKEA meatball

first_imgOfficer Kristin Jasinski received her second Life Saving Award this year for saving a toddler when she choked on a meatball at IKEA.The Merriam police officer hadn’t started her shift yet when she got the call. But within minutes, Officer Kristin Jasinski had saved a toddler’s life after the little girl had started choking on a meatball at IKEA.“I was a matter of seconds away, got there and got flagged down almost immediately,” she said of the incident that took place Thursday, Oct. 4. “It was very obvious what was happening: She had something stuck in her throat.”Jasinski asked the toddler’s father to flip her over so she could perform the Heimlich maneuver.“She was getting a little bit of respiration, but not enough to sustain her for very long,” Jasinski said. “We were eventually able to get that up.”Chief Michael Daniels honored Jasinski Monday evening at the Merriam council meeting with her second Life Saving Award this year.“She managed to do the Heimlich maneuver and get the meatball dislodged, and the 2-year-old is now fine,” Daniels said.Jasinski also received a Life Saving Award in January for reviving an unresponsive Merriam man by shocking his chest with a defibrillator and performing CPR.“I just so happened to be literally less than a block away, so I was able to get over there pretty quickly,” she said of that night, when she immediately recognized his signs of agonal respiration. She continued to administer shocks and CPR, which kept him breathing until the ambulance arrived.Jasinski joined the Merriam police with eight years of military experience in a medical role. She handles medical teaching and training for her fellow police officers, including combat casualty care and tactical medicine.“I’m pretty bashful of the attention; I try to stay out of the spotlight,” Jasinski said. “It’s nice to work for a department that makes a real effort to recognize our hard work and our commitment to the community and the department, to what we do. It’s nice they go out of their way to show us that they appreciate and recognize that.”last_img read more

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BrightSign Announces Collaboration With Walls.io

first_imgBrightSign has announced its collaboration with Walls.io, a marketing solution for the creation of social media content hubs. The partnership will enable content managers in retail, live events, education, hospitality and corporate environments to collect and curate user-generated content across multiple social platforms onto a digital signage display, powered by BrightSign players.Walls.io was launched in 2014 from a parent company with over ten years’ experience in social media marketing. The walls allow marketers to collect, curate and display social media posts from a large number of different platforms in one customizable display solution. The technology empowers brands and organizations to leverage user-generated content to create engagement, increase organic reach and raise awareness. The company ensures that it offers its customers stable and reliable solutions. Walls.io’s main markets are in the U.S., Germany, U.K. and Italy, with high interest from retail, higher education and sports sectors. Walls created with Walls.io’s technology are already used to display social media content during NBA games, Google technology conferences and in showrooms by Prada and other premiere brands.last_img read more

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‘Our grief, instead of having to be hidden, can be shared with the world’

first_imgGay rights advocate reflects on Orlando shooting Senior Editor Outgoing Bar President Ramón Abadin said he had known since his first day leading the Bar that Orlando attorney Larry Smith would be his choice to receive the Bar’s prestigious G. Kirk Haas Humanitarian Award for Smith’s long advocacy for equal rights on behalf of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community. What no one could know was the bestowing of the award would come five days after a gunman killed 49 people and wounded more than 50 at a gay nightclub in downtown Orlando, a few miles up the road from the convention hotel. “Since I accept this award not for me but for my community, I hope you will forgive me if I depart from the norm, don’t just smile, be photographed, and sit down, and that you, my colleagues, will afford me the personal privilege of spending a few minutes talking about what has happened,” Smith said, addressing the June 17 General Assembly at The Florida Bar’s Annual Convention. He noted that the General Assembly happened to mark the one-year anniversary of when a 21-year-old gunman, hoping to ignite a race war, walked into an African-American church in downtown Charleston, SC, and executed nine people at a Bible study meeting. “The people there felt safe and secure and loved,” Smith said. “For many in the LGBT community, nightclubs like Pulse in downtown Orlando provided that kind of safe place when their churches and sometimes their own families had rejected them. Pulse was a place where people could put aside pretense, hiding, and the judgment of others, if only for a short time, and laugh and share the company of others who wanted nothing more than to be friends and to be with friends. Those who gathered asked nothing more of the outside and often judgmental world except to be left in peace in that one small, special, safe place. “When the gunman walked into Pulse on June 12, it was not a random choice or an effort made to make some broad political statement about the government. He could have gone across the street to Wendy’s or next door to Dunkin’ Donuts. . . where anybody in the community can be found on any given Saturday night. He drove over an hour to one of the largest and busiest gay clubs in the theme park capital of the world where he knew inside hundreds of gay people would be found. He walked into their safe space and as they laughed and sang and danced, he methodically shot and killed as many of those people as he could because he thought they were gay and gay lives were somehow less than worthy.” It was not the first time gays have been targeted. Forty-three years ago, Smith said, someone ignited a fire in the doorway of a second floor gay bar in the French Quarter of New Orleans. The bar that day was home for the Metropolitan Community Church, which served the gay community, and congregants were listening to a pianist and discussing a fundraiser for a local crippled children’s hospital. “When the patrons opened the door, the smell of lighter fluid and the heat of flames engulfed the room. There were steel bars on the windows and there was no escape so 32 [of about 60 people present] died,” recalled Smith. “As hard as that is, what happened next is worse. Because what happened was nothing. Families refused to claim the bodies of their family members. A sympathetic priest at a local church ordained at a funeral service, for which he was chastised by his superiors. “There was a half-hearted investigation, but today, 43 years later, no one has ever been charged with that horrible crime. To the world, the message was that people inside the steel bars were invisible and unimportant because they were gay.” But what was different this time was the reaction. “Through horror, we found humanity. In Orlando, we saw hundreds of people standing in line in the hot Florida sun to give blood to strangers they would never meet. And we witnessed an outpouring of love and support from around the world through social media and through pictures of buildings and monuments lit in bright true colors,” Smith said. “The American flag is flying at half-staff, and yesterday the president of the United States came to Orlando to offer the respect of a grieving nation.. . . “Our grief, instead of having to be hidden, can be shared with the world.. . . The gunman in Charleston and the gunman in Orlando failed at what they hoped to do, which was divide this community and to divide us as a nation. We will not live in fear. We will bury our dead. We will heal. We will build a better America where hatred and misunderstanding is replaced with love and pride.. . . We will now return to our long, steady journey toward equality. We will show the world that we are a nation of law and equal justice under those laws. That is the legacy of and my solemn promise to these 49 men and women in my LGBT and allied community. You did not die alone. You did not die in vain. We will not forget you. Our pulse is stronger than ever.” ‘Our grief, instead of having to be hidden, can be shared with the world’ ‘Our grief, instead of having to be hidden, can be shared with the world’center_img July 15, 2016 Gary Blankenship Senior Editor Regular Newslast_img read more

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NAI Horizon adds Laura Pogue to office group

first_imgLaura Pogue has joined NAI Horizon as an Associate in the Office Properties Group.Pogue’s area of focus will be office and medical office. She will be working with other members of NAI’s Office Properties Group to strengthen its medical office capabilities.A native of Michigan, Pogue joins the Phoenix office of NAI Horizon after serving as sales manager and owner of Complete Holdings, an online education technology firm.Pogue also was business development manager and president at Elektra Enterprises in Phoenix, and spent 10 years in sales and service at General Motors/Buick/Delphi in Birmingham, Mich.“I am excited to have Laura join our NAI team,” said Terry Martin-Denning, CEO of NAI Horizon. “She brings a very high level of customer service and sales experience that will benefit NAI’s existing and future clients”.Pogue is a graduate of the University of Michigan-Dearborn where she earned a Bachelor of Business Administration (double major) in marketing and finance. She also holds a Master of Business Administration from the University of Michigan-Flint and a Doctor of Management degree in organizational leadership from the University of Phoenix. Pogue holds a Real Estate Sales License from the state of Arizona.Pogue is active in Valley Partnership and the Arizona chapter of USGBC. She is a member of the Phoenix Art Museum and a member of the National Association of Corporate Directors, Arizona chapter.last_img read more

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Hillstrummers Share Holiday Tunes During December

first_imgHillstrummers Ukulele Group prepare to share holiday music with community for their first performance, which was Friday. The Hillstrummers will share holiday tunes with the community during December. Upcoming performances are 10:45 a.m. today as part of WinterFest and 10 a.m. to noon Dec. 13 and Dec. 20 all in the produce lobby at Smith’s Marketplace (Santa may drop by). The community is invited to listen or singalong as song sheets will be available. Courtesy photolast_img

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Hydrogen Mobility Australia appoints new CEO

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